Who am I without anxiety and trauma?
Do I even know how to exist without them?
When the illusion of one’s identity shatters, a painful questioning of the true self begins.
It is a lonely and misunderstood path to freedom—one that does not come without consequences.
The collapse of everything you once were changes you forever.
Now, you truly understand yourself.
And at the same time, you fear stepping out of your own cage of subconscious fears into your full power.
Because there, inevitably, you find the only true path to healing trauma—the path of Love.
Perhaps not on the day when your own demons visit you again.
But certainly when you surrender to the Higher Power and to your own intuition.
Now, I understand my tree of life—the connection between the earthly and the cosmic.
And I know that I can illuminate the path for traumatised souls only if I unconditionally accept myself.
I immediately recognised Tatjana as a person with light in her eyes. A person with light in their eyes is someone who has already embarked on the journey within—the seventh direction, as ancient sages call it. She has immersed herself in her depths and allows herself to feel everything. Though she knows this journey is not yet complete, she is no longer afraid to descend into emotions and awareness, for she understands that this is the path to Light, to the Source—one that can only be reached by travelling through oneself. This is the story of a strong woman who courageously embarks on a journey to uncover the root of trauma caused by abuse in her early youth. She tirelessly digs, confronts her past, and peels back the layers of her life, one by one. Tatjana is a heroic knight who, on her descent into darkness, found and rescued little Tatjana. She gave her what she had never received before—she saw her, embraced her, and assured her safety.
She chose to share her story with us, knowing well that many may judge her or turn away. Yet she understands how crucial this path is. She is aware of how much unprocessed trauma weighs on people and recognises that this book is, in truth, a guide—a tool for healing. Her therapist, fully aware of this from professional experience, once told her: "Well, if you are truly brave enough to publish a book on abuse, you will turn Slovenia upside down."
The book The Jug Of Love touched me very deeply—it is simply outstanding, and in my opinion, the world needs it. You shine through its pages, so gently and vulnerably, yet at the same time with such courage. I want to humbly thank you on behalf of all of us who have ever struggled with anxiety and overwhelming, destructive emotions. And on behalf of all those who have suffered abuse. Your heartfelt, confessional story will bring comfort to many and serve as a guide on how to climb out of that abyss. And start working with people in every possible way, because this calling will never let you go—it is your greatest life mission. My deepest respect!
Thank you for writing the book The Jug Of Love. With it, you awakened me from the darkness I had been trapped in over the past year. There is also a little girl inside me, full of fears and traumas. You encouraged me to seek help, to open the black box within me, and to face the demons that have been destroying me my whole life. I am truly grateful for your help—you were the only one who truly saw me and helped me, not just through your book but also through our conversation. I admire your courage and strength in revealing and sharing your story with the world, and I equally admire the bravery of your husband. Where I come from, there are so many traumatized women that you cannot even imagine. Yet, everyone keeps telling us that it’s best not to dwell on the past, that life is simply the way it is, and that we should forget everything and move on. That is why you must continue raising awareness about these issues—for the sake of all of us and our children—so that we no longer have to hide behind the seemingly perfect facades of our families.
